I’m dating someone new. Two months in, and it’s still that wonderful, fun, “I have a boyfriend!” mindset. Everything is new, and you want to do stuff with this new person. You go out more than you did before.
Which means you spend more, eat more, exercise less, and have less time to do the necessary mundane things, like pay bills.
For me, especially now that I’m working again, I find I have absolutely no time to do things. My kitchen and bathroom are a mess, I am running out of clean underwear because I can’t find time to do laundry, and I’m in danger of being late with my mortgage payment, because I haven’t had time to log online and pay it. I also haven’t had time to blog, workout, or watch the Royal Wedding.
My new boyfriend has recently complained about putting on a few pounds, a combination of eating out more and having less time to exercise. I’ve always encouraged him to get his workout in, but he recently asked me to help him eat less. I told him that I’m naturally a nurturer, much like the mother in My Big Fat Greek Wedding. “Here, have the rest of mine, can I get you another cupcake, here just finish this off so there’s no leftovers.” I’m doing my best to stop trying to feed him, though.
Another issue, which we’ve briefly touched on but not really discussed, is money. Obviously, if you’re going out 2-3 nights a week, eating and drinking, the cost for two people (which he naturally is going to pick up most of the time) can get to be a little much.
All this is to say, dating can lead to financial loss, weight gain, and a drastic reduction of free time.
But sometimes it’s worth it.
(Note – I wrote this post longhand a week ago, but haven’t had the time to log in and post it! I am safe from foreclosure, have done laundry, but still haven’t seen more than a glimpse of the Royal Wedding.)